Hello all:
On Tuesday, my wife and I attended a funeral. A dear friend of mine that I went to High School with had called me up over the weekend….his mother had died.
Dan’s mother always welcomed me into their home, and it was if I was at my home when I was there. She always took an interest in stopping and talking with me. We knew many of the same people…. she had worked for the county Sheriff’s office where I volunteered, and so we often talked about what I was experiencing in my volunteer work there. She was a person who went out of her way to extend a kind hand to others. She defended the helpless, spending thousands of hours of her own time protecting the rights of sexual assualt and domestic violence victims. Not only did she personally help those victims, she faught for their rights in the legislature as well, helping to pass numerous bills protecting those people. She was a wonderful person.
Listening to her Eulogy, I heard how she had made many more people feel as welcome in her home as she had made me feel.
However… it was a sad funeral. For her entire family and for me, for the same, but different, reasons.
She was Jewish, and non-practicing. While the final judgement indeed belongs to the Father, I felt a deep sadness because I never shared my faith with her. Her son was the first person I ever tried to evangelize…. that effort failed miserably. I haven’t talked with Dan much, we live on opposite sides of the Tri-County area…. and we both have families. But he said he’d like to get together more. Maybe its another chance… I don’t know. But I can’t help but feel somewhat guilty when I think about it.
-Clarke
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March 31st, 2006 at 14:04
Dear Clarke,
It is a terrible pain to have at a funeral. Even if you did try to talk to the person, one can’t help wondering if enough was said. I think it does make us try harder with others. We know that God offered her chances in some kind of way, as He is not willing that any should perish.
I think about how we all would rush to prevent someone from killing/injuring themselves, but hardly take their souls that seriously.
Some are reluctant to teach people whose parents are deceased - because of being afraid the person would become angry, believing you are condemning their parent to hell. I once asked a preacher about this, and he said that in those cases, he tells the student, “God will judge the situation, but if your parent is indeed suffering, they would want you to be saved from that.” I haven’t been in a situation to need that advice yet, but I think it sounds good.
Hope I didn’t make you feel worse.
Denise